Tuesday, December 05, 2006

In memorium

Got word yesterday that my close friend Chris’ boyfriend Brian has died in San Diego. 35 yrs old, drank himself to death. Died on a couch that used to be mine 20 years ago. Sad really that a person with so much potential and talent can sink so low. Alcoholism like any addiction is a nasty thing and no matter how much you try to help someone, they really can only help themselves recover. I don’t know what will become of my dear friend from high school now that he’s alone to drink and sit around watching television all day. Hard to watch someone you love sink so low, especially when they are so stubborn and defensive when you bring up AA, 12-step programs and getting help. I’m sure part of my Christmas vacation in San Diego will be spent hanging out with Chris. Maybe I’ll get him out of the house for some healthy activities. If I can at least convince him to throw away the couch and maybe steam clean the carpets, I’ve made some progress. So Brian, wherever you are, may you be at peace.

2 comments:

Mike White said...

Tom:

So sorry to hear such sad news. Did we meet Brian at one of Larry's functions. Was he on the Mexico trip?

If there is anything we can do for you here in San Diego, let us know.

We look forward to seeing you when you visit for the holidays.

eric welsh said...

I heard the same news, of course, but it was my understanding the cause of death was unclear at this point. Although Brian was a heavy drinker, the possibility exists that he died of other causes, though most likely exacerbated by all the boozin'. Brian deserves more respect than his suriviors jumping to conclusions.